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04 Sep
2017
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The Importance Of Choice - The Wall and Us

“Everyone gets a choice to do what THEY want to.”

I am at a point in my life where I understand some things and some others I just choose not to.

I’ve lived in a bubble where I’ve had to hide the things that matter to me, move me, make me happy, or sad, for a really long time.

When this bubble would finally pop, I would rush to numb the devastating truth about how I’ve been living a lie for most of my life.

This journey has taught me quite a lot.

It has brought me face to face with a lot of people, who like me, have been living in this same exact bubble.

And while the 20-year-old Aitijya would rush to give you insight and advice when you would choose to be vulnerable with him, the 22-year-old Aitijya knows better.

He knows that you always get a choice.

I’ve known this for a while now. But, I’ve started stressing on this very recently.

It was a friend’s birthday recently. It was her day and all of us would work hard to ensure she had a lovely time.

When the party was about to end, and it was time to call it a night, she wanted to go to a friend’s place.

I can’t say more because, in the end, it is not my story, but, she would ask me –

“What should I do, Aiti?”

I knew what she should have done then. She should have slept it off. We were all drunk.

I knew what she should have done then. She should have slept it off. We were all drunk.

And it was late.

We weren’t alone. The people with us let their voices heard. They aired how she shouldn’t leave.

So, when she got around to asking me what she should do, I told her, “I can’t make that choice for you.

It’s your life and more importantly, it’s your birthday.

You should choose to do what you think is right.

You should have seen how she reacted just then. She felt reassured. She felt safe.

See, the thing is, people are always going to do what they want to. They get to do it because it is their life.

You cannot or rather should not make their decisions for them.

When I was drinking myself to death, I made that choice.

I am living with the consequences that arose from them.

When I mixed alcohol with my pills, I chose to do so.

I wasn’t entirely alone.

My mother would tell me to stop. My father would ask me to take care of myself.

My sister would tell me every single day how this would not end well.

My girlfriend would tell me to stop drinking every time I would wake up and break down.

But, I didn’t stop because I didn’t want to.

I feel like no one could have made me.

Just a while back I was talking to someone I’ve met very recently. I told him –

Bhaiya if the child dies, I don’t think I will be able to survive this.

He told me something no one had told me all my life (Paraphrased) –

Thank you for choosing to share something so personal with me.

I am glad you told me this.

I want to tell you that I am not going to take a decision for you. If there is one thing I can let you do, it’s to allow you to make your own choices.

Once you make that choice, I will stand beside you.

I couldn’t believe my ears. It felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders.

I couldn’t believe my ears. It felt like the weight of the world was lifted off my shoulders.

That is exactly what I wanted to hear that night.

I needed someone to tell me that.

And since that night, I’ve made a conscious decision to let others choose their destiny.

Your destiny is a sum total of the choices you make today.

I wouldn’t be where I am today if I had not tried to kill myself a year back.

The Wall and Us wouldn’t exist.

I wouldn’t have a purpose. A drive.

I wouldn’t read as much as I have in the past one year.

I am the sum total of my choices.

And so are you.

Everyone gets a choice.

Let them make it.

If they fall, stand beside them when they do.

If they don’t, stand beside them.

You don’t get to decide. You get to be an observer.

And I’ve come to realize that being JUST an observer is harder than it sounds but it is the right thing to do.

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